Let’s get real—when was the last time you truly checked in with yourself? Not just the surface-level stuff, but the deeper, quieter thoughts that shape how you see yourself every single day.
Do you wake up feeling capable, worthy, and confident? Or do you catch yourself doubting, criticizing, or shrinking back? When things don’t go as planned, do you offer yourself compassion, or do you replay your mistakes like a never-ending loop? And in relationships—do you trust and honor yourself, or do you sometimes put yourself last?
The way you see and speak to yourself is the foundation for everything—your confidence, your relationships, your choices, your happiness. It affects the opportunities you go after, the love you accept, and the boundaries you set (or don’t). Your self-image is either your greatest ally or your quietest limitation.
This quiz isn’t about labels or judgments—it’s about awareness. It’s a chance to pause, reflect, and get curious about your inner world. Through a series of simple yet revealing questions, you’ll uncover patterns in how you relate to yourself. Maybe you’ll notice places where you’re already strong and self-supportive. Or maybe you’ll recognize areas where old beliefs or habits are holding you back. Either way, awareness is the first step toward real, lasting change.
No pressure. No expectations. Just an honest moment with yourself!
In this assessment you will explore seven key themes of your self-relationship. Take your time to answer the questions honestly and vulnerably.STRONGLY AGREE | SOMEWHAT AGREE | NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE | SOMEWHAT DISAGREE | STRONGLY DISAGREE |
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Do you prioritize your own needs and well-being in relationships? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
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Do you indulge in activities that promote mental and emotional well-being? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
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SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you engage in physical activities or exercise for your health? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
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SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you prioritize self-care and engage in activities that bring you joy? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
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SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you practice mindfulness or meditation to reduce stress? |
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SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
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Do you make sure to eat nourishing foods, and get enough sleep? |
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SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
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Do you set aside time for self-reflection and personal growth? |
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Do you allocate time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation? |
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Do you trust your instincts when making decisions? |
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Do you trust that your decisions align with your values and principles? |
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SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
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In relationships, do you trust your judgment in choosing trustworthy and supportive people? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
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When facing important decisions, do you trust your ability to make the right choices? |
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SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
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Do you practice saying 'no' when you need to prioritize your own well-being? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you overcommit to others when asked to do for them, overriding your own needs? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
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SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
When faced with criticism, do you trust in your own worth and self-validation? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you trust that you deserve success and positive outcomes in your endeavors? |
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Do you catch yourself criticizing or denigrating yourself without realizing it? |
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NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
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In moments of stress, do you use positive self-talk to calm and reassure yourself? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
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SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you use affirmations to reinforce positive beliefs about yourself? |
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NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you allow yourself to make mistakes, and not be too hard on yourself? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you challenge negative thoughts about yourself with positive and realistic alternatives? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you cultivate a positive internal dialogue, focusing on your potential and capabilities? |
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SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
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When facing self-doubt, do you consciously affirm your abilities and strengths? |
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Do you speak kindly to yourself, even if what is happening isn’t perfect? |
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Do you take time for self-reflection on your daily experiences? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
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SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
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Do you seek feedback from others about your behavior and actions? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
In challenging situations, do you reflect on your own reactions? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
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SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
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Do you reflect on your strengths and weaknesses? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
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SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you recognize patterns in your behavior and decision-making? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
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Do you actively seek to understand and manage your stress levels? |
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Do you engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment? |
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STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you recognize the impact of your actions on others? |
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STRONGLY DISAGREE |
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Do you find yourself seeking external validation for your choices and actions? |
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NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
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Do you feel proud of your individuality and uniqueness without comparing yourself to others? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you find yourself relying on others to feel OK, based on their approval of you? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you feel confident and content with your decisions without needing reassurance from others? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you prioritize your own happiness and fulfillment over meeting others' expectations? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you maintain confidence in your choices despite the opinions of others? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you rely on your own discernment rather than seeking approval from others? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
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SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you appreciate and approve of the person you are becoming? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
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SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
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Do you prioritize your own needs and well-being in decision-making, even if challenging? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
In challenging situations, do you stand up for your values and principles? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you set and maintain healthy boundaries in your relationships? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you advocate for your own needs and wants? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you respond to criticism without compromising your self-worth? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you engage in activities that uplift and honor your personal values? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
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When faced with challenges, do you maintain your integrity and values? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
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Do you respond to situations that challenge your self-worth with resilience and self-love? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
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Do you feel guilt and shame about past experiences? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you blame yourself for circumstances beyond your control? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you hold onto guilt and shame towards yourself? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you carry regret for choices made in the past? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you hold onto blame and resentment toward others? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you find it difficult to forgive yourself for past mistakes? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Do you practice self-acceptance, acknowledging that you are a work in progress? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
When making amends, do you struggle to forgive yourself, even after seeking forgiveness from others? |
STRONGLY AGREE |
SOMEWHAT AGREE |
NEITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE |
SOMEWHAT DISAGREE |
STRONGLY DISAGREE |
Your Next Steps:
Consider this chart, and the results you have received in the downloadable PDF. Do these results surprise you or resonate for you, %%NAME%%? Have you experienced any revelations? Are you surprised by these results in a good way, or did you feel any disappointment? Are you feeling confirmed or distressed? This assessment quiz creates a snapshot of how you relate to yourself at this moment in time. It provides an opportunity to see and reflect on what is working, and what needs attention, for your life to rock. Are you ready to take your next steps toward living that amazing life? You have questions, I have answers, let's talk (click here to book)!