Quiz - Barry Selby, Love & Relationship Expert, Spiritual Guide & Inspirational Facilitator

The Relationship Mirror: Discover What Is Shaping Your Love Life

Are You Truly Ready for a Healthy, Soul-Aligned Relationship?

Your past doesn’t have to define your future in love. Break free from old patterns, trust yourself fully, and attract the deep, fulfilling relationship you’re meant for.

Take this assessment and uncover what is holding you back from the love you deserve!

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	A) I fully trust my instincts, act with confidence, and rarely doubt my choices.	B) I trust myself most of the time, but sometimes I get stuck in my head and overanalyze.	C) I often doubt myself, question my feelings, and seek reassurance from others before making a decision.	D) I constantly second-guess myself, fear making the wrong choice, and feel like I don’t know what’s best for me.
	A) I fully trust my instincts, act with confidence, and rarely doubt my choices.	B) I trust myself most of the time, but sometimes I get stuck in my head and overanalyze.	C) I often doubt myself, question my feelings, and seek reassurance from others before making a decision.	D) I constantly second-guess myself, fear making the wrong choice, and feel like I don’t know what’s best for me.

	A) Always—I honor my needs without guilt and communicate them clearly.	B) Most of the time, but in moments of emotional intensity, I sometimes struggle to hold my ground.	C) Rarely—I tend to put others first, even when it hurts me, to avoid conflict or disappointing them.	D) Never—I completely lose myself in relationships, making their happiness my top priority.
	A) Always—I honor my needs without guilt and communicate them clearly.	B) Most of the time, but in moments of emotional intensity, I sometimes struggle to hold my ground.	C) Rarely—I tend to put others first, even when it hurts me, to avoid conflict or disappointing them.	D) Never—I completely lose myself in relationships, making their happiness my top priority.

	A) No, I see relationships clearly and make decisions based on reality, not fantasies.	B) Sometimes, but I am becoming more aware and intentional about recognizing red flags.	C) Yes, I often find myself believing people will change or that I can help them grow into who I want them to be.	D) Always—I hold onto relationships, even when I know they’re unhealthy, because I see the potential of what they could be.
	A) No, I see relationships clearly and make decisions based on reality, not fantasies.	B) Sometimes, but I am becoming more aware and intentional about recognizing red flags.	C) Yes, I often find myself believing people will change or that I can help them grow into who I want them to be.	D) Always—I hold onto relationships, even when I know they’re unhealthy, because I see the potential of what they could be.

	A) I reflect, learn, and grow from the experience, using it as a stepping stone toward deeper self-trust.	B) I take time to process but still struggle with fully letting go and trusting love again.	C) I tend to blame myself, wondering what I did wrong and questioning my worth.	D) I feel completely lost, emotionally drained, and like I’ll never experience love again.
	A) I reflect, learn, and grow from the experience, using it as a stepping stone toward deeper self-trust.	B) I take time to process but still struggle with fully letting go and trusting love again.	C) I tend to blame myself, wondering what I did wrong and questioning my worth.	D) I feel completely lost, emotionally drained, and like I’ll never experience love again.

	A) Very comfortable—I set boundaries with clarity and enforce them with confidence.	B) Somewhat comfortable—I set boundaries but sometimes struggle with pushback or guilt.	C) Uncomfortable—I try to set boundaries, but I feel selfish or afraid of upsetting others.	D) Extremely uncomfortable—I avoid setting boundaries because I fear rejection, abandonment, or conflict.
	A) Very comfortable—I set boundaries with clarity and enforce them with confidence.	B) Somewhat comfortable—I set boundaries but sometimes struggle with pushback or guilt.	C) Uncomfortable—I try to set boundaries, but I feel selfish or afraid of upsetting others.	D) Extremely uncomfortable—I avoid setting boundaries because I fear rejection, abandonment, or conflict.

	A) Love is abundant, and I trust that the right relationship will align with me effortlessly.	B) I believe in love, but I have lingering fears about whether I’ll find a truly aligned partner.	C) Love feels uncertain—I often question if I’m lovable or if I’ll ever have a healthy relationship.	D) Love feels painful—I fear being hurt again and have built walls to protect myself, even if it means feeling lonely.
	A) Love is abundant, and I trust that the right relationship will align with me effortlessly.	B) I believe in love, but I have lingering fears about whether I’ll find a truly aligned partner.	C) Love feels uncertain—I often question if I’m lovable or if I’ll ever have a healthy relationship.	D) Love feels painful—I fear being hurt again and have built walls to protect myself, even if it means feeling lonely.

	A) Yes, I feel whole, deeply self-trusting, and confident in my ability to create a healthy relationship.	B) Almost—I’m working through some old wounds but feel hopeful and open to love.	C) Not yet—I still carry emotional baggage and struggle to fully trust myself and others.	D) No, I fear repeating the same painful patterns and don’t believe I can attract a different experience.
	A) Yes, I feel whole, deeply self-trusting, and confident in my ability to create a healthy relationship.	B) Almost—I’m working through some old wounds but feel hopeful and open to love.	C) Not yet—I still carry emotional baggage and struggle to fully trust myself and others.	D) No, I fear repeating the same painful patterns and don’t believe I can attract a different experience.

	A) I trust the flow of the relationship and focus on my own well-being.	B) I feel uneasy but try to communicate and give them space.	C) I start doubting myself and wonder what I did wrong.	D) I panic, overthink, and try to win them back.
	A) I trust the flow of the relationship and focus on my own well-being.	B) I feel uneasy but try to communicate and give them space.	C) I start doubting myself and wonder what I did wrong.	D) I panic, overthink, and try to win them back.

	A) Boundaries are non-negotiable—I set and maintain them with ease.	B) I set boundaries but sometimes struggle with enforcing them.	C) I set boundaries but often feel guilty or afraid of upsetting others.	D) Boundaries? I tend to put my partner’s needs before my own.
	A) Boundaries are non-negotiable—I set and maintain them with ease.	B) I set boundaries but sometimes struggle with enforcing them.	C) I set boundaries but often feel guilty or afraid of upsetting others.	D) Boundaries? I tend to put my partner’s needs before my own.

	A) Yes! I’m ready to trust myself fully and create aligned love.	B) I think so, but I still have some fears and doubts to work through.	C) I want to, but I don’t know where to start.	D) I’m afraid I’ll just end up repeating the same patterns.
	A) Yes! I’m ready to trust myself fully and create aligned love.	B) I think so, but I still have some fears and doubts to work through.	C) I want to, but I don’t know where to start.	D) I’m afraid I’ll just end up repeating the same patterns.

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Your Quiz Results Explained

Your quiz results reveal where you currently stand in your self-trust journey. Below is a breakdown of your current archetype, what it means for you, and how you can step into greater self-honor and alignment in love.

The Over-Giving Individual

You have a deep capacity for love, but you tend to give more than you receive. You are naturally nurturing, compassionate, and devoted to those you care about. However, you often put others first—sometimes at the cost of your own well-being. You may struggle to express your needs or set limits because deep down, you fear that doing so will push people away.

You may have been taught, either through past relationships or early experiences, that love has to be earned. This belief keeps you stuck in cycles of over-giving, over-compromising, and over-functioning in relationships. Even when your intuition tells you that something is unbalanced, you may dismiss your feelings to keep the peace.

Key Strengths

Deep emotional intelligence and empathy. You are highly attuned to the emotions of others.
Strong desire for connection and meaningful relationships. You value depth and authenticity in love.
Commitment to personal growth in relationships. You are willing to work on yourself and learn from past experiences.

Challenges to Watch For

Struggles with boundary enforcement and overgiving. You may find it difficult to say no or express your needs.
Fear that prioritizing yourself will lead to rejection. You may equate self-care with selfishness.
Attracting partners who take more than they give. You may unconsciously gravitate toward one-sided relationships.

Your Next Steps

Start prioritizing yourself without guilt—your needs matter just as much as anyone else’s.
Rebuild self-trust by setting small, non-negotiable boundaries every day.
Learn to recognize when relationships are unbalanced and take steps to shift the dynamic.

It’s time to reclaim your energy and honor your needs. Let’s create a plan to shift your love patterns for good. Book your Complimentary Consult with me today and discover how to reclaim your emotional authority so you attract love that reciprocates, and a lot more.

Your Quiz Results Explained

The Almost-Ready Individual

You are awakening to your worth and learning how to trust yourself in love. You recognize unhealthy patterns and are actively working on shifting them, but you still hesitate when faced with difficult decisions. At times, self-doubt creeps in, making you second-guess your choices, especially when it comes to setting boundaries and fully believing you deserve more.

Key Strengths
High self-awareness and recognition of past relationship patterns. You understand what needs to change and are taking steps to shift.
Growing confidence in setting and holding boundaries. You are learning how to protect your energy, even if it still feels unfamiliar.
Willingness to challenge old, limiting beliefs. You recognize that the way things were doesn’t have to be the way things are.
Desire to cultivate more aligned relationships. You are beginning to expect and seek out better treatment in love.

Your Next Steps
Commit to trusting your intuition fully, even when it feels uncomfortable. Doubt is a habit— you can break it by following through.
Hold your boundaries, even when challenged by others. Consistency will teach you that you don’t have to overexplain or justify yourself.
Make decisions that honor your worth—no more second-guessing. Take aligned action toward the love you truly desire.

You’re so close to fully embodying your self-worth. Let’s bridge that final gap together and ensure you never settle again. Book your free Clarity Call to start your transformation today.

Your Quiz Results Explained

The Self-Honoring Individual

You have done the deep inner work to cultivate self-trust, and it shows. You approach love from a place of wholeness, knowing your worth is not dependent on anyone else. You no longer tolerate half-hearted connections or relationships that drain you. Instead, you attract love that aligns with your values, energy, and emotional needs.

Your strong intuition guides you, and you make decisions rooted in self-respect rather than fear or insecurity. You set boundaries effortlessly and understand that love should be an enhancement to your life—not something you must chase, fix, or prove yourself worthy of.

Key Strengths

Strong self-trust and emotional clarity. You rarely question your choices and confidently navigate relationships. Confident boundary-setting without guilt. You know where you stand and do not waver on your non-negotiables.
Relationships based on mutual respect and emotional safety. You naturally attract high-value connections.
Ability to walk away from anything that doesn’t serve your highest good. You don’t settle or justify mistreatment.
Attraction of partners who reflect your level of self-worth. The energy you give off draws in aligned love.

Your Next Steps

Explore deeper levels of emotional vulnerability and intimacy. Trusting yourself is one thing—allowing someone else to truly see you is another.
Allow yourself to receive love fully without hesitation. You deserve to be cherished just as much as you give.
Continue surrounding yourself with high-value relationships. Keep growing with people who reflect your self-honor.

You’ve built a solid foundation—now, let’s refine it. Let’s explore how you can expand into even deeper self-honor and connection. Book your free Clarity Call here.

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